tellmeaboutit wrote:I have coached and I have officiated both basketball and volleyball. I've had great parents to work with and I have had some real jerks. There is always two sides to the coin, its just that we always remember the bad, and I've had some bad. I think parents need to remember that sports is about the kids and not about them. Also, stepping in and making things easier or better for their child doesn't help the child in the long wrong. Eventually these kids will need to deal with "wrongs" on their own. What is a parent going to do? Follow them to college, to their first job?
As far as yelling at the officials.....it won't get you anywhere. Most officials get a kick out of it, and mark it down as one more story to tell at the next rules clinic. We don't try to screw up, and most of us aren't quick enough to intentionally favor one team over another. We just call it like we see it!
baseball wrote:i dont think the helicopter parents are the ones that follow them everywhere like to job interviews and make them get webcams and stuff....but more of the parents who are always looking out for them from a distance (like a helicopter in the air). i dont konw though and even so, where is the line drawn between being a helicopter parents and smothering your kid.
rep wrote:baseball wrote:i dont think the helicopter parents are the ones that follow them everywhere like to job interviews and make them get webcams and stuff....but more of the parents who are always looking out for them from a distance (like a helicopter in the air). i dont konw though and even so, where is the line drawn between being a helicopter parents and smothering your kid.
could be...i thought they were helicopter parents because they were always hovering around. helicopters do so much anymore. they are a versatile craft...tough to say.
baseball wrote:rep wrote:baseball wrote:i dont think the helicopter parents are the ones that follow them everywhere like to job interviews and make them get webcams and stuff....but more of the parents who are always looking out for them from a distance (like a helicopter in the air). i dont konw though and even so, where is the line drawn between being a helicopter parents and smothering your kid.
could be...i thought they were helicopter parents because they were always hovering around. helicopters do so much anymore. they are a versatile craft...tough to say.
ill look into it....you just get back to watching the girls B, i'd hate to see you lose your job over helicopter parents....haha
oneshot wrote:It seems to me that jealousy among parents is the driving force behind in-appropriate behavior...I am not a parent, but a high school sports fan...I try to be as objective as possible, and i see parents(especially dads) trying to live vicariously through their children...maybe to make up for their own in-adequacies back when they played, maybe because they can sit down at the coffee shop and stick out their chest a little farther than the next parent...whatever the reason, parents need to realize that high school sports, while important for developing teamwork and leadership skills, are still a game...Parents that interfere with kids' extra-curricular activities are not teaching them how to handle difficult situations they will face later in life...these kids are on the verge of adulthood, 95% of them will probably never play organized sports again after they graduate...Is it really worth badgering a coach, ref, or another parent over a h.s. game? I think not.
Baller wrote:We make it very clear to parents to a MANDATORY parent meeting at the beginning of the season that playing time is a topic the off limits to talk about. If a parent has other issues that they want to talk about, they must make an appointment 24 hours after a game. When a parent comes in for a meeting, the player must also be present and there will be no talk of other players. The meeting is about that player and that player only. If parents cannot handle it, then their child does not have to play.
What makes this work is that the administration backs it up and if they get a call from a parent, they just tell them that playing time is nonnegotiable. If we didnt have the administration backing, it wouldnt work.
scruffy wrote:A friend of mine, who used to coach, says he would get back into the business if he could find an opening at an orphanage! :
rep wrote:that is ugly.
makes me curious why the coach would give in...you would think that would just cause all sorts of ripples on the team. and you think it would result in losses for the team because having a weak link like that on the starting 5 would be something other teams would exploit.
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